Oct 19, 2009  •  In Personal, Pregnancy

The Follow-Up Visit

J and I returned to the OB’s office today to have my post-D&C follow-up.

After a brief examination, the doctor happily informed me that everything looks perfect. She said that we can try for another baby as soon as we feel ready.

“Is there anything we can do to prevent another miscarriage?”

“Unfortunately, not much at this point. I have found over the years that a surprisingly large number of women miscarry…they just don’t talk about it. The good news is that the majority of these women go on to have babies — many, HEALTHY babies. Since this is your first miscarriage, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. You’re both young and healthy, and you obviously have no trouble conceiving.”

She went on to add that if I planned on trying for another baby soon, I should continue taking my pre-natal vitamins to ensure that my body will have all the nutrients it needs for another pregnancy.

“That’s it! I hope to see you guys again in a few months! (If you’re ready, that is.)”

So that was that. The pregnancy was officially labeled “a fluke,” and as much as I hate the use of such an ugly term to describe our lost child, I am beginning to accept that it just wasn’t meant to be.


I had mentioned in the private post describing the D&C (request access here) just how much I love this OB practice and the hospital to which they’re affiliated. Since I had such a hard time looking for a good OB in my area (we live in Hudson County, NJ), I’ve decided to share their information with my readers:

Women’s Health Partners
Obstetrics & Gynecology
222 Cedar Lane, Suite 204
Teaneck, NJ 07666-4312
201-836-4025
434 Palisade Avenue
Cliffside Park, NJ 07010-2839
210-943-4884
Devorah Catherine Daley, M.D.
Lev D. Kandinov, M.D., F.A.C.O.G.
Myriam Langer, M.D.

Although both offices are located in Bergen County (not Hudson), the Cliffside Park location is a surprisingly-short 15 minute drive from my house. I have met with and been treated with doctors Daley and Langer and would recommend them to anyone. The staff is attentive and friendly, and this truly was the first OB-GYN office — even before the pregnancy — that made me feel comfortable, relaxed, and informed.

The hospital that they’re affiliated with is Holy Name Hospital in Teaneck, NJ. They are a short, 10-15 minute drive from our house too and I couldn’t be happier with their services. Everyone I saw was so friendly, sympathetic, and attentive that both J and I agreed that this is the hospital we want to return to when we get pregnant again. (It also doesn’t hurt that all the rooms their new maternity ward are private suites.)

2 Responses to “The Follow-Up Visit”

  1. Cynthia:

    It’s nice to know that you were treated with compassion and kindness while you were going through this ordeal.

    Even I had full insurance coverage I was treated with no compassion at all at St. Luke Roosevelt Hospital. I felt like it was a rush in and out job. I guess cause the time I had a miscarriage it was almost New Year. I heard that is a pretty good hospital, but however the staff was just impatient when examining me, she was yelling at me not to move and so on. I just feel horrible and on top of it I lost my sweet baby at 6 weeks even it was a short term there was some bonding to it.

    Anyway good luck and wish you and J the best and God will provide you the best, according to his time.

  2. Vivian:

    I’ve been a fan of yours since weddingbee, and I only recently came across your personal blog. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, but I know that good things will come to you!

    I live in Hudson County, too, so I’m thrilled to see your recommendation of an OB/GYN place. Thanks so much.

    I wish you the best of luck!

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