Jun 7, 2010  •  In Baby, Personal, Pregnancy

23 Weeks

“You’re so huge!” is a common phrase I hear these days. Just what is it about the general public (especially old ladies) that makes them think they have the right to comment on just how fat a pregnant woman is getting?

Well, I think I have given them more ammunition…

Because holy growth spurt, Batman! Take a look at how much my belly has ballooned in just a week:

My weight is gain at a hefty 23 pounds now. I had been hoping to keep it at 30 lbs for the entire pregnancy, but with 17 weeks left I have a feeling I’ll go way over.

For the first time ever, my waist size is now larger than my husband’s. Luckily, I still have 20 more pounds before I overtake him on the weight front, and I’m seriously hoping that this will never happen. After all, I have just started to feel the top of my thighs rubbing together as I walk. Sigh.

And meanwhile, the pregnancy boards are abuzz with women bragging about how they’ve only gained 3 lbs so far. Bitches.

The baby now weighs over a pound (yes, only one pound, which leaves the remaining 22 to my arms, boobs, and ass) and measures over a foot long. She is starting to get STRONG — the other night, I actually saw my belly jump — through my shirt, no less — as she delivered a particularly powerful kick.

My sister asked me the other day what baby kicks feel like. At first, it literally felt like butterflies fluttering in my stomach. Then it progressed to large bubbles popping inside my belly, and now it feels like muscle twitches and spasms. I know that as she grows larger and stronger, it will become more apparent that I have a squirming human inside of me…and that her movements might even hurt. I’m not sure how I’ll handle these, because baby girl is definitely a night owl and she’s already keeping me awake at night! Being a super-light sleeper certainly doesn’t help in pregnancy.

A few days ago, a woman in one of my pregnancy boards went into premature labor at 23 weeks. This isn’t an uncommon occurrence; I would say that we lose at least one woman per week from pregnancy complications. However, this time, the baby survived. Sure, he is severely underweight, hooked up to tons of machines and will most likely spend months in the NICU, but he’s alive.

In just one week my baby will be considered viable by the medical community. Be that as it may, I still have nightmares about losing this baby, about going into premature labor, about delivering a stillborn, and about the baby just suddenly dying in my womb without my knowing. But reading this story gave me renewed hope. She’s getting there.

8 Responses to “23 Weeks”

  1. Lauren:

    This is the first time I have visited your website. Congratulations on your pregnancy! Don’t worry so much about the weight gain. The baby weighs a pound, but then you have amniotic fluid, placenta, etc. So the rest isn’t all going to your @ss!

  2. Geek in Heels:

    @Lauren — thanks for the comment….I always love hearing from new readers! I hope you’ll stick around! :-)

  3. I’m new here, too! (Not my first comment, though.) I found you on GReader the other day.

    Congratulations on your pregnancy! I’m guessing this is your first? I gained like 40 or 50 pounds with my first baby. My OB *freaked* but I just laughed him off because I knew I was underweight before I got pregnant. I lost most of the weight giving birth or right after, and was left looking better than ever! ;) I’ve had five, and I gained less each time — I literally did not gain a single pound with the fifth. After he was born I had lost weight!

    Don’t forget, even if your baby is only 1 pound right now, some of the other 22 pounds are placenta, amniotic fluid, etc. And some of the fat will help you make breastmilk after the birth!

  4. Geek in Heels:

    @MIchelle — Thank you! Yes, this will be my first live baby. I had lost my previous one just as I entered the 2nd trimester, so it’s been nerve-wrecking to say the least.

    I can’t believe you looked BETTER after giving birth…you must have an awesome metabolism, and/or great genes! Although I sometimes make a big stink over my weight gain here, I’m still thrilled to be growing a healthy baby…even if that means gaining 50+ pounds by the end. I do, however, really really hope that I’ll be like you and easily take the weight off after she’s born!

  5. birdie:

    you’re looking great! these updates are so cool to read. you can really see the belly grow! i think it’s so neat to see the baby develope right in front of our eyes.

  6. bohemianbailie:

    My mom is a size 2/4 and she has had three children and gained at least 40 lbs with each of us!! After though she looks great and fits in her old clothes, so I say as long as you and the baby are healthy the weight is a non issue!!

  7. I liked this post. Its my second trimester and I know how you feel…Don’t worry about weight….

  8. "@MIchelle — Thank you! Yes, this will be my first live baby. I had lost my previous one just as I entered the 2nd trimester, so it’s been nerve-wrecking to say the least."

    I’m so sorry to hear about your first baby, that must be difficult. But so thrilled that this baby is healthy and growing!

    "I can’t believe you looked BETTER after giving birth…you must have an awesome metabolism, and/or great genes!"

    LOL, all I had was a pre-pregnancy body that looked like I was 12 years old — 20 pounds underweight, no hips, boobs or butt! Pregnancy has a way of filling a girl out, KWIM? :D

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