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Healing

Since returning from the hospital Monday, I have not been able to sleep or eat. I have put my phone on silent and ignored my emails and messages, vowing to get to them when I no longer start weeping at the first thought of what has happened. I mope around the house looking for distractions but manage to avoid human interaction. My melancholy state of mind is only interrupted by bouts of anger - pure, blazing ANGER - at the world, at myself, and even at God. I never realized I am capable of such wrath. I never realized I am capable of such selfishness, wondering thoughts such as 'How can the world still be existing, still functioning normally when something...

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It’s My Internet Persona and I Choose to Overshare

Dear Friend, I am sorry that blogging about my miscarriage has made you feel uncomfortable. I am sorry that you found it in bad taste for me to choose to share the post on Facebook where all my friends could see it. But you know what? I found it damn therapeutic to write about it, and I will continue to write about it in the future. As for Facebook? Should I have kept it silent, let the news spread slowly via word of mouth, and continue to receive messages/wall posts on how the pregnancy is going? I felt that delivering the news en masse, no matter how impersonal, was the best method for me. Yes, allow me to act selfish while I mourn...

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No Heartbeat

We did not get an ultrasound yesterday because this particular doctor did not have an ultrasound machine on premises. He had discovered the bleeding after a pelvic exam, and while he put me on bedrest, he advised us to get an ultrasound right away. Luckily, we were able to get an appointment with another doctor this morning. I immediately liked her, and kept thinking inside my head, "We found our OB!" She was warm, energetic and friendly, and told me more about the pregnancy in 15 minutes of conversation than all my past doctor visits combined. But as soon as the grainy image flickered onto the screen, I knew something was wrong. "...

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