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When Bloggers Can’t Win

A recent commenter asked me, "If you are so confident in what you have written, why are you responding to each critical comment?" The post in question was a controversial one with numerous commenters up in arms about what I had chosen to share. I considered my options. If I respond, people like her would think that I'm being defensive. If I don't respond, someone will inevitably chime up and say that I'm acting high-and-mighty by ignoring helpful statements. It was, as the title of this post suggests, a no-win situation. That was one example. Here's another. (image source) Last year, I sought to implement a blogging schedule. One of the topics I regularly wrote about was my faith. And it's funny, because I never, in...

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Please Stand By…

I know I've been blabbering on about my recent web host transfer and related maintenance issues, and that most people reading won't even care. But. Yesterday, a parenting Facebook group linked to one of my old, more controversial posts. Which led to tons of new visitors. Which led to more people linking to that same post from other parenting boards (like GBCN, which is apparently a message board for former Nesties). Which led to even more traffic from angry parents who didn't agree with my parenting choices. In simple terms, this blog received a whooping 172,616 hits yesterday. (And the stats continue to stay higher-than-normal today.) My new web hosting account received a total of 381 (as of this writing) 508 "Resource Limit Is Reached"...

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Buh-Bye, HostGator! Hello, Hawk Host!

You may have noticed that this blog was down this past Friday. In fact, you may have noticed that a bunch of sites were down that day, and I'll tell you why. When I first switched to HostGator, everything was fine and dandy. HostGator is was known to be one of the very few RELIABLE web hosts with affordable "UNLIMITED!" shared hosting plans. But in the past few months, I started noticing more lagging and time-outs. There were even a few downtimes, and then...

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Aerin’s Developmental Assessment

Yesterday, two ladies from the state early intervention program stopped by our home. NJ's early intervention program assesses a child in the following areas of development: Gross Motor Skills Fine Motor Skills Communication, Speech, & Language Social/Emotional Development Cognitive Skills Adaptive/Self-help Skills In order to be eligible for early intervention services, the child must have delays of at least: 2.0 standard deviations below the mean in one developmental area; or 1.5 standard deviations below the mean in two more more developmental areas Aerin scored below the mean in every category, with the exception of fine motor skills. (She actually scored well above average in this area.) While her gross motor skills and social/emotional development were just below average, her cognitive skills and adaptive skills were about 1.5 standard deviations below the mean. Particularly...

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The Snip and Quit Method

Pacifiers are one of many subjects that are often raised in parenting circles and forums. Should you use one or not? When should a child be weaned from his or her pacifier? I know that many of my friends are against the use of pacifiers, but we happily used them with both Claire and Aerin. Pacifiers — or "binkies," as we referred to them to the girls — provided great comfort, especially at times when we couldn't immediately be there for them (e.g., during car rides or while we were sleep-training). They helped tremendously when it came to the girls not putting random objects into their mouthes. And they were almost always guaranteed to quiet and calm my daughters when we were in...

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