Aug 4, 2011  •  In Personal

How My Father Ended Up in the Hospital

Thank you to those who commented on today’s earlier, emotional post. My father is doing much better now — he was able to regain consciousness and was coherent by the time I was finally able to see him. The CAT scan did not reveal any serious damage, but they want to keep him at the hospital overnight for observation.

I realize that the earlier entry was curt and may have been a bit confusing to some. So here’s the full story…

My father runs a coin-operated laundromat in the South Bronx. Ask any seasoned New Yorker where the most dangerous areas in the Five Boroughs are, and the South Bronx will most certainly be on the list.

Earlier today, a woman entered the store and started to make a big fuss about her daughter’s clothes not being in the appropriate dryer. My father told her that the customer is responsible for watching over his/her own property, as is clearly stated in various signs around the establishment. But the woman would not relent, and she continued to scream and make a ruckus for an hour and a half, disturbing the other customers in the process.

Finally, my father asked her if she would like to take a look at the security footage in the back room, and she agreed. He showed her how no one had been using the dryer in question, and how her daughter was not even at the laundromat at the time when she supposedly dropped off her clothes.

The woman hurried away in a huff. But before doing so, she grabbed a container which housed money that were collected from the change machine.

My father quickly went off after her despite the protests from the other worker. He — now, even I will admit that this was dumb on his part — followed her back to her apartment building, and when she noticed him in the lobby whilst waiting for the elevator, she became physically violent. She pushed, shoved, and even kicked him in the chest.

My father shoved her back and told her that he had her on camera, stealing the money, and that he now knew where she lives.

Then he headed back to the store. Within minutes, the woman returned, this time with her brother in tow.

Now, the woman was pretty big — at least 5’10” and about 200 lbs by my father’s estimates (I saw a picture of her and this seems to be a fair approximation). Her brother was a lot larger. But my father? He stands 5’6″ and is thin as a rail due to his illness.

He had no chance against them, and they knew it. Together, they began to beat up on my father.

He did his best to dodge and block them, and even tried to run away a few times. But they were unrelenting. Even as he fell to the ground, they continued to beat him.

The other customers at the store started to scream and yell at them to stop. One person was level-headed enough to call the police and an ambulance. My father tells me that when the sound of the ambulance became audible, the sister and brother ran away from the scene.

And that’s how I found my father, lying on a blood-stained pillow, with a fat lip and other bruises starting to form, with traces of blood all over his face and arms where the hospital staff had failed to clean him properly.

I did my best not to cry as I approached him and held his hand. He asked me why I bothered to make the long trip from New Jersey when I am still in pain myself, and who was watching Claire? (I had called J as soon as I heard what had happened, and he hurried home from work so that I could go be by my father’s side.)

“Because I’m your daughter. Because I know you would do more for me,” I told him.

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Aug 4, 2011  •  In Personal

At the ER Again

My father was hit over the head with a chair. He has a bad cut and is drifting in and out of consciousness. I am currently at the ER waiting for news. Please keep him, and our family, in your prayers tonight…

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Aug 3, 2011  •  In Baby, Claire, Cute, Funny, Personal

Restful Slumber…Or Not

I wish that baby monitors came with a screenshot function. (Any baby equipment companies reading this?) Then we wouldn’t have to deal with crappy cell phone photos like these:

Five minutes later…

And in case you’re wondering, YES she is deep asleep in both pictures. 🙂 I don’t know where she gets her sometimes-violent sleep maneuvers from, because both J and I tend to remain pretty still as we snooze.

Posting will be light today as I am utterly exhausted from only managing 8 hours of sleep in the past 72 hours. Ever feel like the entire world is going by S-L-O-W-L-Y, when all sounds seem muffled and you feel overcome with nausea from lack of sleep? Yeah. That’s how I feel today.


Update:

Nellie has kindly informed me that baby video monitors that take screenshots do exist — I knew that I should have done a quick google search before writing this post…doh!

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Aug 2, 2011  •  In Geek, Information, Science

The Knight’s Tour [Animated GIF]

Today I learned that on a chessboard, a knight can visit each square exactly once. Here’s how:

The animation is actually one way of solving the Knight’s Tour, which is a mathematical problem that is commonly given in computer science courses. (However, I don’t recall ever giving this problem in my Intro to Java class.)

At first glance, viewers may object that the animation is not valid considering that the knight’s square of origin is incorrect. However, according to Wikipedia, there are 26,534,728,821,064 different ways (including reversals, reflections and rotations) to do this so that the knight travels in a loop (ie, starting where it began), in which case you could start from any square and then just continue the loop from there.

Via Reddit.

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Aug 2, 2011  •  In Aerin, Claire, Personal, Scary, Weird

Worst Case Scenarios

Lately I have been plagued with awfully vivid nightmares — ones that jolt me from sleep and keep me up the rest of the night. Take the one from a couple of nights ago, for example:

J is killed in a horrific accident.

At his funeral, his parents and I get into an argument regarding the future of Claire and BebeDeux — they want to raise them in Hong Kong while I want to raise them here in the U.S. As their birth mother, I have legal custodial rights over them and vehemently refuse to raise my children in a country I have never even visited, which results in J’s parents ceasing all contact with us.

I sell our condo, taking a great financial hit in the process, and move back in with my parents. My mother sells her store so that she can stay home with the girls while I go to work at an entry-level job because that is all that is available to me in this dismal economy.

Being a single mother to two little girls under the age of two, with the daily 1-hour commute into the city (each way) and the ever-piling bills and calls from collection agencies, I am overcome with exhaustion and grief every day.

I woke up sobbing from that nightmare, and spent the rest of the night staring — with relief — at my sleeping husband.

I have also been suffering from morbid visions that are similar to flashbacks in that they materialize suddenly and without control. Like the one I had recently while taking a trip to the supermarket:

I am walking back from the grocery store with Claire in her stroller. As I cross the street, a driver runs a red light and comes speeding toward us. I’m not sure how, but I know that I have a split second to decide whether to save Claire’s life, sacrificing mine and BebeDeux’s, or turn the other way so that I and the unborn baby inside of me will have a greater chance for survival (but would mean a certain end for Claire).

What do I do? How do I choose?

One of the reasons I tend to take the pessimistic approach to life is so that I can be prepared. So that I minimize my risks of being disappointed. Because whenever I go the optimistic route, I am always let down.

With this in mind, are these nightmares and visions just another coping mechanism? To remind myself that things could be worse? (Because as horrible as my appendicitis and resulting surgery were, they weren’t as bad as the “what if” scenarios that play out in my mind.)

Or are they just a weird pregnancy side effect?

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Aug 1, 2011  •  In Art/Design, Blogging, Giveaways, Personal, Web

Custom T-Shirts Giveaway!

A couple of weeks ago, ooShirts contacted me about a possible sponsorship. After perusing their website, I couldn’t help but agree — not only is their custom design process simple and intuitive, their prices are some of the lowest I’ve come across on the web.

Here’s what ooShirts is all about:

ooShirts is an online custom t-shirt printing company. Their main office is in Berkeley, California but they have printing departments all over the country. That’s how they’re able to offer complimentary shipping, which is certainly a plus! You do the entire design/order process on their website, www.ooshirts.com. The Design Lab has tools to let you upload images and add text directly to an image of the shirt that you’re planning to order, kind of like a preview. Their group discounts make them a good company to order from for kids’ school events and family reunions.

 

I truly had fun playing around with the Design Lab — with tons of options like font, color, design, and the ability to upload and manipulate your own images, I doubt that there is much you can’t get printed on the apparel of your choice. Here is a screenshot of my latest creation: The Oatmeal‘s Tumbeast on a Bella Ladies Crew Neck Jersey shirt:

The best part? The quote I received for this custom shirt, complete with a full color image, cost only $25.29. (And as anyone who has gotten anything professionally printed knows, prices rise with the number of colors you require.)

Now, for the fun part…

ooShirts has very kindly offered to give two readers a
$25 credit on their next order of custom apparel.

Do you have an event coming up where you or a friend can use a custom shirt? Present one to the guest of honor at the next birthday, bachelor/bachelorette party, or bridal/baby shower. (One of my favorite presents from my bridesmaids was a custom shirt that reads, “Mrs. _____” 🙂 ) Or, use it to just show someone that you care.

Per the usual fashion, you can enter the giveaway in three different ways:

  1. Leave a comment to this post
  2. Tweet (and leave a comment here saying you did so) the following:
    I just entered @geekinheels’ custom t-shirt giveaway at http://bit.ly/oFriKe and you can too!
  3. “Like” this post using the Facebook “Like” button at the bottom (and leave a comment here saying you did so)

Each method will grant you one separate entry, so you can increase your chances of winning by using all three methods of entry.

Please leave a valid email address (which will not be published or shared) when filling out the comment form so that I can contact you if you win.

The giveaway will end this Friday, August 5th, 2011 at 12:00pm EST. The winner will be chosen by a random number generator and be notified via email.

Thanks for reading, and good luck!


Update:

This giveaway is now closed. Congratulations to Serena and Amy on winning!

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Aug 1, 2011  •  In Blogging, Entertainment, Geek, Personal, Science

My Favorite Week of the Summer

…is Discovery Channel’s Shark Week.

I don’t particularly like the ocean, nor am I a very good swimmer. In fact, I have a ridiculous fear of most fish (yes, even goldfish!).

But these majestic creatures have always fascinated me. I remember taking out tons of books on sharks from the library when I was a little kid and dreaming of becoming a marine biologist. (Too bad my ineptitude at science — as well as my fear of practically all other fish — stopped that dream short.) I have even made it a goal to go cage diving at least once before I die.


(via Twaggies)

And yes, Jaws remains one of my all-time favorite movies. 🙂

Does anyone else get as excited over Shark Week as I do?

(Don’t have cable? Fear not. You can still enjoy Shark Week with this handy guide by Gizmodo.)

Happy chomping!


Today is my first day alone with Claire since the surgery. I was so nervous about having to take care of our 10-month-old, all alone for the entire day, when I am still recovering and still in some pain, that I only slept 2 hours last night. Way to make a situation worse, Jenny!

The good news is that I am feeling better. Ridiculously tired, but better. We removed my surgical bandages last night and despite the blood that erupted from the disturbed wounds (and wimpy tears on my part), the incisions seem to be healing just fine.

I plan — I hope — to be back to my regular blogging schedule as of today. And to come back with a bang, I will be posting an exciting giveaway this afternoon. 😀 So please stay tuned!

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Jul 29, 2011  •  In Claire, Personal, Pregnancy, Relationships

Healing, and Thank Yous

This week has been one of the longest of my life.

I know that an appendectomy — a laparoscopic appendectomy, no less — is considered a fairly common and simple procedure in modern medicine. But with the pregnancy having slowed my healing time in addition to lowering my threshold for pain (both very common pregnancy symptoms), I am still in quite a bit of discomfort.

Perhaps the biggest complication that the pregnancy brought to the procedure was that due to my enlarged uterus, the incisions had to be made a lot further away from each other. So for the first few days after surgery, I could feel — by way of pain — the path where the laparoscope (the camera) had made its way from about 4″ above my belly button to the actual surgical site, about 8″ away on my lower right abdomen.

My OB tells me that he and the surgeon had debated whether to give me a traditional appendectomy instead given the complications that the pregnancy would provide, and that they had chosen to go the laparoscopic route mostly because the surgeon is one who specializes in laparoscopic surgery.

The good news is that I am healing, albeit slowly. My entire stomach no longer feels like it’s on fire. And as of today, the only pain I feel is from the three incisions, and only when I move.

The hardest part of this ordeal has been watching my family suffer. When they first informed me of my diagnosis, I immediately asked if the condition had resulted from something I had done — in other words, was it my fault?

The answer, obviously, was no. “There was nothing you could have done to prevent it,” the doctors assured me. But you can’t deny that technically, my family just went through a week of hell because of me.

So thank you to my wonderful husband for working from home the entire week, taking care of me and Claire and Comang. I know that this week could not have been easy, being cooped up inside, missing events at the office, and trying to juggle everything that was going on. But despite the overwhelming fatigue that shadows his eyes, he remains in good spirits while ensuring I am as comfortable as possible and keeping our increasingly-high maintenance baby happy (and teaching her to high-five!). My mother has told me numerous times this week how lucky I am to have such a supportive husband…as if I needed reminding!

Thank you to my mother who stopped by on Sunday night and Wednesday afternoon to help. And a huge thanks to my sister who visited on Monday, in addition to yesterday and today. We couldn’t have done it without you guys.

(To those who may be wondering, our nanny only came for her regular hours this week as she had prearranged plans.)

And to my Claire Bear, mommy is very sorry that she was not (and is still not) able to pick you up. It breaks my heart to see you reaching your arms up to me and not being able to immediately scoop you up in my arms, to only be able to embrace you if someone else is supporting you too. I know that you will understand when you get older, and I promise that things will get better soon!


When a package arrived for me earlier this week, J placed it at the edge of our bed so
that I could easily get to it when I woke up. Later, Claire came to “visit” me and
proceeded to steal the package off the bed! J took this snapshot of her with his phone
as she was making the escape, package in tow.

Lastly, a great thank you to my dear readers. All the comments, emails, and messages meant a great deal to me, and helped put a smile on my face on more than a few occasions.

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Jul 24, 2011  •  In Aerin, Personal, Pregnancy

Surgery

I am currently writing this on my phone while lying in bed at the hospital.

Early yesterday morning I woke up to excruciating abdominal pain, similar to the severe round ligament pain I had experienced during my pregnancy with Claire. With this pregnancy being so similar to the last, I had believed myself to have been lucky to have been spared such dramatic afflictions, but I was wrong.

When the pain level reached that of labor pains, J called his brother to come watch Claire so that we could head to the hospital. Being 25 weeks pregnant, I was admitted to Labor & Delivery right away. The pain continued to grow worse, but BebeDeux seemed to be in good condition.

Soon, the pain became almost unbearable. I could not walk or talk, only rock back and forth with tears streaming down my face. I began to vomit and shake uncontrollably. My OB prescribed me some morphine, but that would only provide me about an hour of relief and then the vicious cycle would begin all over again.

It was the worst physical pain of my life.

This was not round ligament pain, like last time. Neither was I in premature labor (and with labor pains, I would at least get some relief between contractions while this pain was continuous).

The doctors were perplexed. All my bloodwork, abdominal ultrasounds, and other pregnancy-safe tests came back normal. But after about the 9th hour of this agony, they decided that an MRI was needed. There were some risks to the baby, sure, but they just could not figure out what was wrong with me.

I fervently prayed that the MRI would show what the other tests did not, and it did…

Accute appendicitis.

I needed surgery asap, before my appendix burst.

My OB, surgeon, and anestheseologist all assured me that the procedure would be safe for BebeDeux. And that the small risks involved with the surgery were nothing compared to the risks I would be taking by not getting my appendix removed and quite possibly have it burst.

A couple of hours later, I gave J a kiss and told him I loved him while getting wheeled into the OR. And an hour after that, I woke up to my surgeon informing me that the surgery was a success, and that my inflamed appendix was now no more.

So here I am now, back in the maternity ward, recovering from surgery while they monitor BebeDeux. She seems to be handling it a lot better than her mama, and I am forever grateful for that.

Depending on my progress, I may be discharged as early as today. Be that as it may, I can’t help but be worried about the upcoming week or two as I continue to recover and have little Claire to take care of…J will most likely need to work from home many days, and/or our nanny will need to come in for extra hours.

Please keep our family in your prayers as we recover from yesterday’s surgery. I hope that you’re all having better weekends than me. 🙂

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Jul 22, 2011  •  In Entertainment, Movies, Personal

Anticipation & Expectations (Movie of the Year?)

I’ve been battling a slight cold the past couple of days. Like my sister said to me over an email, “Only YOU would get a cold in the middle of this heat wave.”  🙄

Seeing as I’m still not feeling 100%, and that it is a Friday — in addition to being perhaps the hottest and most humid day of the year here in the northeast — let’s forgo the deep topics and stick to lighthearted subjects instead.

Like movies.

Last Sunday, my mother insisted on getting some time with Claire so J and I were able to catch the last Harry Potter film on opening weekend.  🙂  I had been looking forward to this movie for over a year, and had been hearing fantastic things about the flick from reviews and from friends who had been able to watch it earlier than us.

Perhaps my expectations were too high? Because I didn’t think it was that great.  😥

Most people I know cite this last movie as their favorite of the Harry Potter series. I disagree. I think that film 5, or Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, was the best movie of the eight.

(My opinion also differs from the majority of my friends’ in that I believe Prisoner of Azkaban or Deathly Hallows was the best book, while others predominantly favor Goblet of Fire.)

Have you watched Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows – Part 2 yet? What did you think of the movie?

Which is your favorite movie of the series? Favorite book?

J agrees with me in that our friends have probably set the expectations too high, because he was disappointed too.

Thanks to my mother who insists on watching Claire practically every other Sunday — and because there isn’t much to do near my parents’ house aside from the second largest mall by area in the nation — J and I have been very lucky in that we, as new parents, have been able to watch almost all the big movies of 2011 in theaters as they are released.

So naturally, a discussion about the best movie of the year began almost as soon as the last Harry Potter movie ended, and we both agreed: the best movie we had seen this year was Fast Five.

Maybe it’s because we both walked into the theater without much of an expectation? Perhaps it’s because the series had taken a turn from street-racing to the theme of an elaborate heist? Nonetheless, the combination of The Rock + Vin Diesel made for a killer movie.

What was the best movie you’ve watched this year?

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