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Sisterly Love, or Lack Thereof

They say that the average age difference between siblings is 2-3 years. And wouldn't you know it — now that Claire is 28 months old, many of my mommy friends whose first children are around her age have steadily been giving birth to their seconds in these past few months. I'm happy for my friends and their families — I truly am! (I can also say that I'm sooo glad to be out of those extremely trying newborn-with-a-toddler months!) But there is one thing that makes me a bit sad, and even a tad bit jealous whenever I hear/read about their new babies...

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Negative Nancy vs Positive Polly

Gawd, having two toddlers is tough. And trying to be a good mom is the hardest thing I’ve ever done (and I imagine it will continue to be so for the remainder of my life).

These past couple of weeks have been especially trying with J’s parents and my own mother all on vacation (the timing was purely coincidental), leaving me with no help or backup for the kids while J is at work.

To make the experience extra memorable, my little Aerin fell sick with a cold…and as soon as she got better, she got hit with a full-on case of roseola.

How has the human species survived this long when parenting is so grueling?

It should come as no surprise to long-time readers that I am not the most positive person in the world. I have been called downright pessimistic — a Debbie Downer to the sunshine & rainbows crowd that seems so prevalent in the blogging world today.

But I am not a complete Negative Nancy. I have my “look at me sharting rainbow cookies!” moments. And, with my favorite TED talk in mind as I go about my everyday life as a SAHM, I have been noticing that perhaps the greatest influence my kids have had on me is that they give me the most spectacular highs. Sure, the downs are as low as ever, but the unhinged highs keep me hangin’ in there.

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A chart from the abovementioned post

As a result, whenever I’m feeling especially in the dumps, or when I’m overwhelmed and exhausted to the point of breaking-out-in-hives-and-getting-nosebleeds (both of which have happened this past week), I try my best to take a deep breath and think of at least one thing that I am thankful for.

And since most of my stress stems from Claire & Aerin these days, I like to focus my positive energy on them as well.

A C&A Update

This past week has been hell for me — not only was am I ill with a cold, Aerin has suddenly become super clingy with me. For instance, I’ll be standing behind her and she’ll start screaming because she can’t see me. I can’t even pee in peace because she’ll be trying to climb all over me.

J and I call her “mommy’s creepy stalker” because she literally follows me everywhere and wants to know what I’m doing at all times.  :mrgreen:

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If you’re a parent, I’m sure you’ve seen this viral picture by now.

They say that I should cherish these moments. And as much as I hate to admit it — because I’ve never been much for physical affection and she is really starting to annoy me — I know that I will. Just last month, when she got sick and refused to sleep in her crib, I would take her blankie and wrap it around her, holding her tight as we both dozed off on the couch. This is exactly what I did with Claire for the first 2 months of her life because it way the only way she would sleep. And holding Aerin like that really brought back those memories…I found myself feeling nostalgic.

Three Christmases

Call me sentimental, but my favorite posts to read this holiday season were the ones where bloggers posted progressions of photos — whether they were holiday cards or family portraits — that showcased each household's transitions and growths through the years. The Geek in Heels family almost didn't take a holiday photo this year. But today, a full three days after Christmas Day, I was preparing to take down our Christmas tree when J wistfully suggested that we take a family portrait by the tree anyway. Four and a half years ago, J and I were married. photo by Danny Weiss Two years ago, Claire joined our family. We purchased our first Christmas tree that winter and took our first family portrait by said...

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