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The Other Dress I Will Never Wear Again

I loved my wedding dress. It was slightly under budget, easy to alter, and it was the first dress I tried on that made me feel like a bride. Yes, it was bashed on a public, then-popular wedding blog (which I won't link to here but if you want to read it, shoot me a message) and when I asked them, nicely, why they felt the need to use an actual picture of me from my wedding day without my consent or even making any attempt to anonymize me, and pointed out that they should have at least credited my photographer, they called me a "whiny-assed needy fucking insecure bride who OBVS won’t stay married for long" and took down the...

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Teabag Coasters

Being Chinese, J and his family are the ultimate tea snobs. My in-laws bring with them fancy, expensive tea whenever they come to visit and rarely does a day go by without their drinking at least a few glasses of an infusion. They even specify which types of tea to drink with different dishes, and even the best types of tea to drink at different times of the day! Me? I can't even tell the difference between green tea and black tea. I have never seen J drink tea from teabags ("Tea connoisseurs NEVER use bags!") but I like to think that he would appreciate the beauty of this packaging design as much as I...

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Makeup Magic

A guy friend once told me that he would never date a girl until he has seen her sans makeup first. "You never know what you'll wake up next to in the morning," he said. "And trust me — club, bar, and lounge lighting is cunningly deceptive!" I personally don't think my girlfriends and I look that different without makeup. Do we look better? Sure. But we still look like us...

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Cultural Expectations of Family

As mentioned in my last post, my in-laws (J's parents) will be visiting for 1.5 months starting this weekend. J's parents live in Hong Kong, so we only get to see them a handful of times a year. However, each visit lasts at least a couple of weeks — the longest of which was 5 months, starting two months before our wedding in 2008. That's right. My in-laws stayed with us for 3 months directly after our wedding. I won't lie and tell you that it was a piece of cake. I was stressed from wedding planning, moving to a new place, leaving my own family and adjusting to a new life. I refused to have sex with J with his parents in...

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