I loved my wedding dress. It was slightly under budget, easy to alter, and it was the first dress I tried on that made me feel like a bride.
Yes, it was bashed on a public, then-popular wedding blog (which I won’t link to here but if you want to read it, shoot me a message) and when I asked them, nicely, why they felt the need to use an actual picture of me from my wedding day without my consent or even making any attempt to anonymize me, and pointed out that they should have at least credited my photographer, they called me a “whiny-assed needy fucking insecure bride who OBVS won’t stay married for long” and took down the photo…wait, I’m getting off topic.
As much as I loved my dress, I know that I will never wear it again. (And if my weight gain continues on its path, I doubt that I can fit into it again.)
I am sure that I am not the only woman whose wedding dress sits untouched since her wedding day.
But unlike the majority of these women, I have an additional dress I wore on my wedding day that I will most likely never wear again…
My in-laws gifted me with a custom-made qipao (or cheongsam) to wear for our Chinese Tea Ceremony. And while I usually hate wearing skin-tight dresses — nevermind one that made walking difficult — I had to admit that having a dress made to custom-fit your body really made a difference in helping me feel less insecure about baring my silhouette in its entirety.
|all photos by Danny Weiss
We had chosen a traditional Chinese wedding fabric for the qipao: red, which is a lucky color and thus the color most associated with weddings, and a dragon & phoenix pattern which symbolize the groom and bride.
The fabric was a thick, luxurious satin and the pattern beautifully embroidered. And while you can’t really tell from far away, the embroidery held little patches of deep purples, blues, and greens (you can see a hint of the different colors in the top right photo of my sleeve) which made the material multi-dimensional.
Today, I read an interesting article about the Chinese qipao that prompted me to dig into the back corner of my closet to admire the dress. But because my qipao is so obviously one that is meant to be worn by a bride on her wedding day, I seriously doubt that I will wear it again.
Have you, or do you plan on wearing your wedding dress again? Do you have any articles of clothing in your closet that hold special memories, but would never wear again?