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Negative Nancy vs Positive Polly

Gawd, having two toddlers is tough. And trying to be a good mom is the hardest thing I’ve ever done (and I imagine it will continue to be so for the remainder of my life).

These past couple of weeks have been especially trying with J’s parents and my own mother all on vacation (the timing was purely coincidental), leaving me with no help or backup for the kids while J is at work.

To make the experience extra memorable, my little Aerin fell sick with a cold…and as soon as she got better, she got hit with a full-on case of roseola.

How has the human species survived this long when parenting is so grueling?

It should come as no surprise to long-time readers that I am not the most positive person in the world. I have been called downright pessimistic — a Debbie Downer to the sunshine & rainbows crowd that seems so prevalent in the blogging world today.

But I am not a complete Negative Nancy. I have my “look at me sharting rainbow cookies!” moments. And, with my favorite TED talk in mind as I go about my everyday life as a SAHM, I have been noticing that perhaps the greatest influence my kids have had on me is that they give me the most spectacular highs. Sure, the downs are as low as ever, but the unhinged highs keep me hangin’ in there.

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A chart from the abovementioned post

As a result, whenever I’m feeling especially in the dumps, or when I’m overwhelmed and exhausted to the point of breaking-out-in-hives-and-getting-nosebleeds (both of which have happened this past week), I try my best to take a deep breath and think of at least one thing that I am thankful for.

And since most of my stress stems from Claire & Aerin these days, I like to focus my positive energy on them as well.

Christmas Tree Decorating Guidelines

What's that you say? There are only a dozen days left before Christmas and we have yet to put up our tree? Please. That's nothing to this family of procrastinators. And just in case there are others out there in the same boat — Bueller? Hello? I know we can't be the only ones! — who may need some guidance on the best way to decorate the tree based on their children's ages, here's an instructional from the ever-so-delightful How to Be a Dad. J and I have talked about dragging our tree out of storage and getting it set up, preferably while both girls are asleep. However, we think that Claire would love being a part of the process this year, so we're willing...

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Claire’s First Lie

A few days ago, Claire told her first lie. She and Aerin were playing together when Claire got angry over something, grabbed the toy in Aerin's hand, and threw it. And when J approached her to remind her that she shouldn't throw things, she outright told him that it was Aerin who threw the toy! Both J and I had witnessed the entire event from start to finish. When J asked her, "Did you mean that you threw the toy?" She denied it and told him once again that her little sister had done it. We were incredulous! I told Claire to give her sister a hug before I took this shot.Obviously, my timing was off.  While J scolded her and explained that she shouldn't lie, I...

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The Baby of the Family

Ever since Aerin got sick last week, she has been super SUPER clingy to me. Before her illness, she was a pretty independent little girl. Now she needs to be held all the time — only by me, no less, and starts screaming her head off if she can't see me. Even her two favorite people after me, her halmeh (my mother) and yeye (J's father) have been having trouble calming her down. I know that this is probably just a phase. It might even be a combination of several factors, such as teething or reaching a new milestone (she has been cruising for a while and we're expecting her to start walking any day now). But you can't deny that it...

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Aerin’s Dol

When I had written a short update on the morning of Aerin’s dol, I had been worried about Hurricane Sandy’s impact on the party.

But while we could not hold my younger daughter’s first birthday at a banquet hall as we had originally planned…

And more than half of our guests could not make it due to the impending storm…

(Together with the fact that we ended the party early in hopes that everyone will get home safely…)

We ended up having a great time.  😀

First, the decorations. I only decorated our dining area (we don’t exactly have a dining room, per se) because I only had one week to plan and prepare everything.

As stated in a previous post, I had DIY’ed Aerin’s dol towers using beans glued onto paper towel rolls. Those suckers were a lot of work, y’all! I stayed up late every night in the week preceding the party to finish each tower — if I had more time, I would have made some additional ones with colorful gumballs and/or other candy, but this was all I could do on our tight deadline.